Before You Propose, Make Sure She Truly Wants a Future With You

Before I propose, I believe I should already know that the woman wants a future with me. A public proposal should confirm a shared decision, not become the first real test of whether she is interested. Rejection often shows up long before the ring comes out. It can appear in unanswered calls, cancelled dates, inconsistent effort, little excitement about the future, or an unwillingness to have meaningful conversations. I believe men should respect both a clear no and behaviour that consistently communicates no. I take time to build chemistry through honest conversations before rushing into dates or commitment. Attraction cannot be negotiated, and gifts, pressure or constant persuasion cannot create genuine affection. If the interest is not mutual, it is better to move on than to damage your confidence chasing someone. Before marriage, couples should discuss their goals, finances, children, location and expectations. Love matters, but alignment matters too. Do not propose to a fantasy; pay attention to the relationship you actually have and make sure you are both excited about the life ahead.

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